Forgiveness

I can honestly say that I do not often think of the man that caused Randy's car accident. I made the decision long ago to not allow him to enter my thoughts because the unfairness of the situation breaks my heart. He was being negligent by driving too fast during rush hour traffic. We have all made bad decisions. A few years ago, I was following someone too close when it was raining and when they stopped abruptly I rear-ended them. It damaged my car more than theirs. What hurts my heart in regards to Jimi Bellinger is his callousness, his lack of responsibility. After I rear-ended the person, I remained in contact with them, paying their deductible, taking responsibility for my actions even though it was an accident.

Not only was Bellinger not following the law by not carrying insurance, he wasn't even sorry. He has shown no regard for the life of another human being. He hid out from the attorney, was uncooperative with the officer.

I decided long ago, though, that by hanging onto any resentments or anger towards him would be pointless. In the end, it would only cause harm to me.

However, the day after Randy's surgery, as he lay on the table with the doctors pulling on the muscles around his eyes trying to fuse together his vision, my whole body filled with anger at Jimi Bellinger. My Randy was going through so much physical pain and the person who caused it out of their negligence was not going to be held responsible in any earthly way. All Bellinger got out of the whole deal was a fine for not carrying insurance. The fine was less than the cost of 6 months worth of insurance.

Today, though, I read an article in the paper about a man who was acquitted of charges stemming from an accident in which he killed 5 people. All 5 of the people were children, the oldest being 12. All 5 were siblings. The parents of these children, even while they themselves were in the hospital recovering their injuries from the accident, publicly forgave the man who caused the accident.

Wow! I still have Randy in my life. Life is hard sometimes - he is in pain all of the time, which hurts my heart; he struggles with things that use to be easy for him. But I still have him there to talk to, to touch, to experience life with.

I don't know what is in the heart of Jimi Bellinger. I hope that he never causes someone else the amount of pain and suffering that he has caused my family. But I am in the process of forgiving him. It is a daily process. Every day, I have to forgive him.

Catching Up

Since my last post, which was over 2 months ago, Randy has gone through eye surgery in order to try to correct his double vision. I was very nervous for him to have it. My biggest fear was that he would lose his site and sink into a deep depression.

The surgery took place at Harborview, where he spent his first 44 days after the car accident. Having him in there in a hospital gown and with the oxygen mask on him brought back too many old feelings. It was a bit rough.

When he first came out of surgery, his right eye, which was not the eye they worked on, was hurting a lot and he couldn't see out of it. I had an awful pit in my stomach until the doctor got there and explained that they had had Randy's right eye open during the surgery to line up the left one too it. The loss of vision and the pain was only temporary.

The night of the surgery, they sent Randy home with a patch over his left eye. We all had our hopes up that when he returned to see the doctors the next morning, his eyes would work together to see as one. Unfortunately, that was not the case.

The next morning, they took Randy back into the surgery room. They allowed his dad and I to go back with him. I was very hesitant to go, but I knew he really wanted me there. They measured his double vision with prisms and then had him lie on the table. They put a thing to his eye to keep it open and they pulled on his eye muscles (the two that they had worked on the day before), pulling one tighter. The doctor said that he was happy with the horizontal differences with the double vision. The vertical and the torsion remain an issue.

Now, we wait and hope that Randy's brain kicks into gear and fuses the two images. So far it hasn't happened. He can fuse them for very short times when he looks down, but that is about it.

I want to give him and his body what they need to so his healing can continue. I have been reading up on eating healthier. I have been learning a lot about our bodies, about how God designed them, so that I can begin learning how we should eat. The book I am currently reading is "What Would Jesus Eat". It has really opened me up to start thinking about why God created certain animals and has me wanting to search out more how God wants us to take care of our bodies - what his plan was for us in eating and taking care of ourselves. It is an exciting journey and yet an overwhelming one. We (Randy, Cass and I) are such people of conveniences. We like quick and easy. I have never taken the time to really think about where my food came from or what it is giving to me in either a positive or negative form.

We, as in humankind, have gotten so far off track of what God designed. The "rules" He gave to us weren't some willy nilly things He made up to just be ruler. All of the rules/laws have purpose. For example, drunkenness is against the rules. This isn't because God doesn't want us to have any fun. Alcohol consumed at the level where it intoxicates you damages your body. It can cause damage to the brain and to the liver. The more that I long to know about God, the more my search brings me to wanting to know more about His reasons behind the things that He asks of us. The more I understand the reasons behind, the more I understand about His love and the design that He had wanted for us all here on earth.

My Husband

As many know, I love on my two pups quite a bit ~ they are my babies. The other day Randy jokingly asked me why I don' love on him the same way. I jokingly responded that it was because he doesn't greet me the way the dogs so when I come home. As soon as I walk in the door, the dogs are right there, wagging their tails, showing me they are excited that I am home.

Today, when I walk in the door from working, there was Randy on the floor with the dogs, wagging his tail (which was our duster).

I think this is proof that his memory is improving.

Truth in Cliches

I have often heard people express "I am so tired I could fall asleep standing up". However, I had never actually seen anyway actually do this.... until last night. Randy has slept very little Thursday night. I think he just had too much on his mind. Right now, work has been very busy for him that I think his racing mind is winning over the new sleep medicine. Then last night (Friday night), I was in his office working on organizing it so of course he had to be in there to "help". I could tell his eyes were getting heavy, but he absolutely refused to go to bed. At one point, he bent down to pick up something he had dropped, but I noticed he wasn't standing back up. When I said his name, he jumped a bit. I asked what he was doing and he sheepishly answered "Meditating?" At that point, I told him we had to stop for the night ~ it was time to get him into bed. As he was getting ready for bed, he kept stopping in the middle of doing things (brushing his teeth, walking into the bedroom, etc) and would seriously just fall asleep standing up.

This morning, he turns to me and says "I don't remember going to bed last night." I answered "That's because you fell asleep before you even got there!"

My Clever Husband

Randy has always been a creative problem solver, which is one of the many things that I admire about him. Today was a great example of that admirable problem solving skill.


When we moved into our house 4 years ago, it came with an ancient chandelier in the dinning room. We have always hated it, but could never justify spending money to get a new one (times that I have priced them, they have been around $200 ~ at least for the ones that we tend to like.) The day after Thanksgiving we generally avoid all stores because we don't like crowds. Well, today, we decided to venture into Home Depot to get some things for our backyard. While there, we came across a nice chandelier that we both liked for only $40, so we grabbed it. I was so excited to get it hung up today.

Randy's left side is still pretty weak, so this wasn't an easy project for him. However, his great problem-solving skills came in handy today. Randy pulled out the tallest tripod he has and used it to hook the piece to while he was working on the wiring. I captured a picture.... what a brilliant man!




Here is a picture of the completed project:




We are trying to find cheap projects we can do around the house that will make the house a little bit nicer. I think this light fixture was a great addition!

Updating

I am sure not many people come here and read this anymore... I rarely update it! One day, if I ever decide to write a book, I am going to kick myself for not keeping up on all that is going on.

Randy continues to improve, though it is a lot slower now than before. He has found some deficits that get in the way of him doing the quality of work he would like to do at work. The biggest issue is his memory ~ it is getting in his way of following through with things. Since I don't work for Boeing, he can't tell me specific of things, which makes it a bit harder for me to help him. However, he and I did sit down and have a brainstorming session of issues and solutions. He was able to give me enough detail in a non detail oriented overview that I was able to provide some solutions to him. Now getting him to use what we came up with is another story.... the follow through is a big issue in all facets of life!

On top of working, Randy has also been doing school. He has done excellent in the class that he is currently taking. It is an online photography class, but it isn't all about taking pictures. He has had quizzes, tests and has had to write a paper. I think he is currently sitting at an A- in the class. That class is almost over and his next class is beginning. There is a cool story with this, but I don't want it to get lost in the middle of a post, so it will have its own post here soon.

I am also pushing Randy into getting back into exercising on a regular basis. Work and school take up so much of his time. But physical exercise is so important to his continued healing. He himself has said that he has seen some slipbacks in his progress and he relates them to lack of sleep and lack of exercise.

With the lack of sleep issue, we are working with our doctor to find a solution to that. Randy went through a sleep study last Saturday night. We will find the results of that this Friday. Now that I am not working, I can take naps every day to make up for the sleep I don't get at night due to Randy's restlessness. But Randy doesn't have the option to take naps. Sometimes he has gone two days since sleeping. I don't know of anyone who functions well without sleep, but it affects Randy so much more. Hopefully, with the sleep study, they can provide us with a workable solution.

Another update ~ Randy and I got to do our first photography job together. We went to Oklahoma and were the photographers at my nieces wedding. It was a lot of fun to work together on.

While we were there in Oklahoma, we were asked to give our testimony to the church that my family attends. They played the DVD I made of Randy and his accident and then invited us up to talk. Though I hate getting up in front of a lot of people, it was a great experience.

Happy National Talk Like a Pirate Day!

Wow! It has been over a month and a half since I have posted anything. Oh, how time flies when you are busy. I have been working hard at school. As soon as a quarter ends at one school I start another at another school. I will have my Associates in Business in just a couple more quarters. I have also been busy starting to look for a job since the doors are closing at my current job at the end of this month.

With Randy, things are continuing to go incredibly well. Since I am not with him while he works, I don’t know how his work performance is, but since he has gone back to work, I have seen so many improvements in him both physically and mentally. He still has days that his short term memory doesn’t function well, but it is usually on the days that he is more tired. It was funny… a couple of weeks ago, I was working on a slideshow presentation for work and was looking for some music to add to it. Randy handed me a cd of his, telling me he thought it would work well. I ended up leaving the cd sitting next to the chair I was sitting in. The next day, Randy sat in that chair, picked up the cd and commented “Oh, this is a good cd. When did you get this?” I looked at him a moment to see if the memory would come out, but it didn’t, so I responded “Yesterday when you handed it to me”.

Last Saturday we met up with some friends for dinner. They commented to me that it seems like Randy’s sense of humor has not only returned, but actually improved. He does a good job of making light of some of his deficits, especially the memory deficit. The restaurant we were at was one that we had eaten at only a couple of weeks prior. When Randy got up to use the restroom, I asked him “Do you remember where the restroom is?” He said “Nope, not a clue”, and walked off, not even waiting for direction. When he came back he said he figured he would eventually find it ~ why ask for directions if he won’t remember them anyway!

The last little update is on how the trial is going. The judge dismissed the case against the company, stating that the truck being over-weight is arguable. Our attorney conferred with other attorneys and told us that it would probably not be to our benefit to appeal. Besides, the appeal process itself would take anywhere from one to two years and if we lost, that would be a lot more expense to us. We also decided not to go after the man who caused the accident. From our initial look, he didn’t have any assets and our attorney said that he would most likely be advised to file bankruptcy anyway. I think Randy had a bit of a hard time letting it go because he wants this guy to understand the consequences of not following the law by not carrying insurance. So the legal side of things is over and the blog is no longer restricted. However, instead of moving it all back to updatesonrandy.blogspot.com, we are leaving it at http://randysjourney.blogspot.com.

Randy is doing an excellent job with continuing to recover. He continues to amaze me. A couple of weeks ago he started taking an online photography class. He works hard at putting in his efforts at work and at school. I think it would be easy for someone to fall into their disability and use that as a crutch, but Randy pushes himself to do more. He is a pretty amazing guy!

Update!

Wow... it has been awhile since I have put out any update. Randy has come so far in his healing that he doesn't require so much of my time and attention, so I was able to go back to school. Between going to school full time and working full time, I don't have a lot of extra time!

Randy is doing amazing. He is now working a full 8 hour day. I was a little worried that he would tire out too much, but he is handling it very well. In the next few weeks he wants to add a bit more to his plate and take a photography class. Prior to the accident, Randy had developed a love of photography. He had taken quite a few classes at the local community college, mostly focusing on black and white photography. He is now branching out into the world of digital photography. He is beginning to drive Cass and I a bit crazy. With the black and white, film was a little expensive so he had to plan out his pictures and he took very few. With digital, he doesn't have to worry about the cost of film, so he is constantly taking our picture. I think we have over 50 alone of just me driving. But I love to see him getting back to the things that he was so passionate about before.

The last few weeks haven't been all work for us. Since Cass had to spend her birthday last year mostly at the hospital, we decided to take her out to have some fun. We headed to Ocean Shores for a few days and had an amazing time! So much so, in fact, that we ended up staying an extra day. I think it was good for the three of us to get away from everything and play for a few days.

Though Randy has come so far, he still has what we jokingly refer to as "brain injur moments". One such example occurred about a week ago. A couple weeks prior to this occurrence, we had purchased a screen door for our front door. Randy hadn't measured the door or anything. He just grabbed the one he thought would fit. Well, it didn't fit. So he took it back the next day. Then, about a week ago, he sends me the following email

"In case you didn't know, I suffered a brain injury in 2006 and have some severe memory deficits, so bare with me. Did we end up purchasing a storm door, if so, where did we put it?"

I just had to laugh! His memory, overall, is getting better. He likes to joke that at least his is better than his father's!

Thankful

Last night, Randy and I watched the Coma documentaries from HBO. In the main documentary, they follow 4 people from just a few weeks after their accidents until 1 or so years after. All 4 have head injuries - two from car accidents, one from a fall from a balcony, and one who was assaulted and thrown from a bridge while in another country.

In the documentary, they talked about the coma stage (which Randy was in for 12 days) and then they talked about the minimally conscious state versus the vegetative state. Randy went from the coma to the minimally conscious state.

The show was heart wrentching. It was hard for me to watch because it reminded me of all we had been through. Also, watching it made us feel so fortunate. At the year mark, everyone was at a different stage.

One person, who was around 19, was taken home by her mom and then brought back 4 months later because she was getting inadequate therapy.

The man who was assaulted was about 19. He was actually at his two year mark during the documentary. They were debating throughout the documentary over whether or not he was in a vegetative statement. At the end of the show, the doctors and therapists were saying he wasn't going to improve. The parents weren't willing to give up yet.

The man who fell off a balcony was finally able to go home after a year

The fourth person had started coming out of his coma, was in a minimally conscious state, seemingly getting better, and then slipped back into the coma and died.

At the time that some of the "better off" people were just starting to walk while in rehab and just starting to make some vast improvements, during that time in Randy's recovery, he was at home walking and doing outpatient therapy. Randy was definitely on the fast track of recovery.

Watching this shore made us both feel so thankful for the miracle of Randy's fast recovery. It also made Randy feel very fortunate for the family and friends that he has. Throughout the show, in seeing what the family went through, Randy was constantly saying "Thank you". He kept saying how thankful he was for all that his family did, all those who visited him, and for all of those that prayed for him.

Catching Up

It's been a bit since I posted last! Life has been a little busy.

Cass is feeling better, which makes me feel better. She felt dizzy for a few days after falling, but that seems to have gone away.

Last weekend we went to Spokane for a family reunion ~ it was Randy's mom's family. They were all very excited to see Randy and many commented on how great he looked. He enjoyed getting to see and visit with everyone, but after awhile, it got to be a bit overwhelming for him so we called it an early night. But by morning, he seemed to be doing better. The family went on a cruise that served brunch. It was so much fun. We all enjoyed being out on the water. Right by the cruise loading area, they had bi-planes that take people for flights. Randy was itching to go and get up in a plane again, but we didn't have time. He and I had to head back over the mountains to get our dogs in time. We left Cass over with Grandma and Grandpa to spend a couple of weeks.

Randy is still really enjoying being back to work. I asked him how he felt he was performing. He said that, when talking to people, he does great, but he is struggling with the follow through. That is a pretty important part of his job! He and I are working together to come up with ways to help him be more successful with following through with things.

Randy saw his Neruo-opthamologist this week. We didn't like the news we got from this visit. He said that a lot of the pain Randy is experiencing in his eye (his left eye hurts pretty much all of the time) and then on the left side of his head is most likely caused by scar tissue. He also did a bunch of tests to test any improvements in Randy's vision. There were slight improvements, but he reallly feels that Randy's healing has stablized and where he is at now is where he will always be. All along, he has been telling us that Randy's type of double vision cannot be fixed by prisms, but that surgery could probably fix it. His opinion changed a bit this time. He said that even with surgery, Randy will still be left with double vision. He said that surgery might be able to fix the double vision when Randy looks straight ahead, but he cannot fix double vision when Randy looks up, down, or side to side. Even with the straight ahead, it is only somewhat of a possibility. Randy said that he isn't going to risk surgery for a "somewhat of a possiblity".

So, at this point, doctors cannot fix Randy's eyes, only God can. So far He hasn't chosen to do so, but that doesn't mean He won't still yet.

More Working!

Randy went into both the Renton and the Everett office today. He came home with a big smile on his face and said "I had such a good day". He is really enjoying back to work. As soon as he got home, he went straight into his office. He is a happy man!

My day wasn't quite as good as his. I told Cass to call me as soon as she got up this morning because her back was really hurting her last night from her fall off the trampoline. She woke up feeling dizzy. I left work and took her to the urgent care down the street from our house. The doctor said that, even though Cass didn't really hit her head, it sounded like she had a concussion. He gave me a little print out of what to watch out for. I stayed with her the rest of the day. I think she is feeling better tonight, but I will probably stay home with her tomorrow just to make sure. I don't think we will ever be buying a trampoline!

Happy 4th!

We hope everyone had a safe and happy 4th of July. This year for us was most definitely better than last year!

We started the day off with doing some work around the house. Randy and I had gotten a sleeper sofa for his office/spare bedroom. Unfortunately, we did not measure our house or the sofa to ensure we could get it in the room. We just selected the cheapest one we could find (making sure it was still comfortable for Randy's parents, of course!). When they delivered it, they couldn't get it through the door of the bedroom ~ the angle was just a little too off. So, Randy decided it would be a good time to replace our aluminum single-pane window with the double pane window our neighbor gave us when he remodled his house. With the help of our neighbor and his brother, the sofa fit very nicely through the open hole of the window and then we got the new window put in. Since they were over here helping already, they decided to put the double pane window into Cass's room as well. Randy's office is now done. Thankfully, the couch looks very nice in there, because even if it didn't, it can't come back out!

We then headed over to our neighbors house. They have a bunch of their family over every year. They have a trampoline, which Cass absolutely loves. Someone hooked up a sprinkler to the safety net around the trampline, so the kids could jump while cooling off with water. I thought it was a great idea until Cass got off of it and our neighbor Ron convinced her to come give me a hug!

We ended our evening down at Lake Meridian, which is a short little walk from our house. They put on a great show every year. Our neighbors know some people who live on the lake, so we get to go into one of the private beaches to watch the show.

Randy was very tired by the end of the night. He had to use his cain to walk down to the lake. When he gets tired, he has a much harder time with balance.

Randy's First Day

Randy had a great day Friday. He was so excited to be back at work. He called me while he was going from one building to the next and said "This is where I belong." He enjoyed being around everyone again. He had a hard time stopping after 4 hours.

We spent the weekend finishing what Randy had started a little over a year ago ~ turning our spare bedroom into an office. By tomorrow evening, it should be all done. For his parents, we made sure that we still have availability to easily set up a bed in there because we enjoy when they come visit.

Friday night, Randy was actually worn out enough to fall asleep well, which I really appreciated! I was a little surprised at how easily he was able to fall asleep because we had a house full of girls because Cass had a sleepover birthday party. Randy's mom stayed with us the night before and got the house all set up, which we greatly appreciated! All we had to do was enterainment for a little bit and then set them off to do their own thing (crossing our fingers that we wouldn't wake up to a huge science epxeriment gone wrong again).

Randy is looking forward to going back into work tomorrow. I am just so thankful that he has healed enough that he can get back into doing what he loves. And I am thankful that he works for the company that he does and is surrounded by such supportive people!

Randy's Going Back to Work!

Today, Randy got his release from the Boeing doctors to return to work. He met with the Boeing vocational therapist and his bosses to discuss the details.

He goes back to work this Friday!

He will need to drive up to Everett one day a week (Fridays, I believe), but will be able to tele-commute the other 4 days or go into a closer Boeing office. He will be starting out with 4 hours and day and work up there as he is able to handle more.

This has been a long year, but in consideration of the injuries he had, Randy has come so far so fast. The average time for those with severe head injury to return to work is around 18 months, so Randy is ahead of the game by 6 months.

We are so excited!!!!

1 Year Celebration

The celebration event last Saturday went great. I know Randy and I had a great time. We hope everyone that was able to make it did as well. The weather was great. It rained here Friday and Sunday, but Saturday was beautiful. Randy loved seeing everyone and getting to cook burgers for them. People brought so much food ~ the chocolate/cherry mice were absolutely adorable!

We are so thankful for all those that could make it and sorry that we missed seeing those who couldn't make it. It was a great way for us to celebrate the one year anniversary of this last year! Randy still can't stop talking about what a great time he had!

Pics of Cass

I got some pictures of Cass from the John Robert Powers put up on our picture site. I just put my favorites up there.

Check them out:

http://rarush.spaces.live.com/PersonalSpace.aspx?_c11_PhotoAlbum_spaHandler=TWljcm9zb2Z0LlNwYWNlcy5XZWIuUGFydHMuUGhvdG9BbGJ1bS5GdWxsTW9kZUNvbnRyb2xsZXI%24&_c11_PhotoAlbum_spaFolderID=cns!E1159A4D3D1B7ABE!474&_c=PhotoAlbum

1 Year Today

Today marks the 1 year anniversary of the car accident. I took the day off with Randy and what a beautiful day to celebrate! Our plan was to go to Harborview and have a picnic there, but we never quite made it. We slept in (which I thought was absolutely wonderful!) and then we went to one of Randy's favorite restaurants, a little diner down the street, for a late breakfast.

It has been a long year to say the least. Our whole world was turned upside down.It set us out on an amazing journey. It has strengthened our marriage and our family. Through this journey, we have met so many new friends and deepened our relationship with old ones.

Through his determination, stubborn attitude, and his great fortune for having such a wonderful circle of family and friends, Randy has come a long way during this last year. He has amazed the doctors and the therapists with the improvement he has made. He has amazed me with his "I am not going to give up" attitude, even times have been tough for him.

Thank you to all of you who have shared in the last year with us. We look forward to celebrating with all of those who can make it to our house this Saturday.

Neuropych results

We finally heard from the doctor today on the results from Randy's second neuropsych evaluation. With Randy's memory, there was significant improvement. He scored within the average, though it was in the low range.


With Randy's visual perception and processing speed, he was still showing significant impairment. He has made about 15% improvement in the last 6 months, though. Just not quite enough to bring him into the average category.

The Neuropsychiatrist is agreeing that Randy is probably ready to give working a shot. Randy is beyond excited! He was on the phone this afternoon trying to get things set up.

The Deposition

Well , Mr Bellinger didn't show up today. I can't say we are surprised, but we are a little disappointed. We waited over half an hour before going on record saying he wasn't showing up. We were at the office another half hour talking to the attorney, and still no Mr Bellinger. The attorney said from this point, what we do is try to contact him to find out why he didn't come and then we take it before the judge and ask for a summary judgement against him. We really won't benefit from it unless he has assets out there that we haven't been able to locate yet, but we can take away his license and try to prevent him from doing something to someone else. Not to say that he won't drive without a license since he was willing to drive without insurance, but at least we try.

With the company that owns the truck that hit Randy, that trial to determine whether or not the case to determine their liability has been moved until August 3rd.

Tomorrow, Randy has a whole day of Neuropsych testing. We probably won't find out the results until the end of the week or beginning of next week.

Randy has spent the last couple of days painting Cass's room. It is looking very blue! Cass started out helping, but that resulted in little blue spots all of the house on our nice hardwood floor so she is no longer helping. Randy is doing a pretty good job.

Update on Court Stuff

We just heard from our attorney ~ the court date to see whether or not the case against the company of the boxed truck that hit Randy will be dismissed or not has been set back until August 3rd. We were a little disappointed. We were hoping to have an answer this Friday of whether or not we get to go to trial with this.

On Monday, our attorney will be meeting with the man who started the whole accident for a deposition. Randy has an appointment scheduled for the same time, but we both really want to go and meet this man. I am not sure what we will say to him, if anything.

Randy's sleep habits are currently all messed up. He really just isn't sleeping. It doesn't matter if he exercises a lot or a little or whether he has had any caffine or not. He just isn't sleeping. He stopped taking any sleep medication because when he would take it, I couldn't wake him up for any of his appointments. He didn't sleep at all Sunday night. He slept pretty well Monday night, but then last night he didn't go to bed until almost 4 in the morning and then had to be woken up around 9 for physical therapy. Needless to say, I haven't gotten much sleep either. He does try to be quiet and not wake me up.

Randy and I bought our house almost 4 years ago. From the time that we moved in, I have been asking him to pain the walls and he always responded "There is no way". Of course, I wasn't going to do it because I absolutely hate painting! Last Saturday, though, he completely surprised me by calling me while I was at work and telling me that he would paint the house for me. I was so excited until I realized why he had chosen now to be willing to do it ~ we can't afford for him to paint! He promised me that he will paint it as soon as we are able to ~ but just to be safe, I think I need to get it in writing!

We are going to go ahead and paint Cass's room now. She and Randy have been working the last couple of days to get the room cleared out (which is no easy feat with all of her stuff!) and get it ready to paint. Her favorite color is blue and she has been begging for light blue walls for the past couple of years. I have been trying to stay out of their hair and letting them work together on this project, only interceding when I have had enough of their bickering and need to tell them to take a break from talking to each other for a little while (they really are too much alike at times).